Caleb -
I have two horses. My best horse, Blackie, is 15.2, solid as a brick and strong. He has a hard mouth(not my fault...got him that way) and is a bit headshy(when I got him he was REAL headshy). He is very smooth and a good stable ride. All in all a good horse, but by no means a beginner horse.
I say all this so you will understand what I am about to tell you.
My daughter in law is a tiny little girl...a legitmate size 2 and under 100#. She was, and still is a little afraid of Blackie, but she really wants to ride. She is a rank beginner.
Anyway, when she gets on Blackie, he is a competely different horse. His neck arches and he looks like one of those show stallions. He actually prances and she basically only has to lean and lay the reins over his neck with thelightest of pressure and he will turn like a dream. If she gets scared and leans back...Blackie stops and I mean dead in his tracks.
The bond is obvious. She can reach right up and scratch him betweeen the eyes. He lowers his head for her. If I tried that he would be back about five steps with his nose about ten feet in the air and the whites of his eyes bulging. If I ask Blackie to park out, I have to go back and forth stretching out each leg in turn. When Melissa taps him on the shoulder and asks him to park out, he stretches out...all the way out, with both feet...first time. I do find it hilarious but it is also borderline annoying because he won't do that for me either.
I bought her a used Icelandic saddle, and outfitted it with new stirrup leathers that I could adjust all the way up and hooded stirrups. I also put a grab strap in the front of the saddle(it is an endurance type) and when she had to use it to grab and keep or regain her balance it seemed to work quite well. I know she is much more at ease having it there. So am I.
RayG